I have primary infertility. I've don't have any children, never been pregnant, never miscarried. Secondary infertility is when a couple has already conceived and carried to term. Usually it is someone that has had zero problems conceiving previous children but when they try for another child it just doesn't work. So they cross over to my side of the track. I don't want them on my side.
I don't really sympathize with secondary infertility because of the place I'm in now. Just one child would be considered a gift to me. If a person has already been given the gift, then why ask for more? Especially if taking fertility drugs and going through the procedures was required for additional children. I'm just one of those people that thinks to be happy with what I have, not complain about what I don't. I detest the complaining from those people, especially if it is all the feel bad for me crap. You were already given something that other people are still praying for. Be happy with the children you have.
If you've had IVF, etc. in the past to conceive and it was successfully, and want to do IVF for another child I have nothing wrong with that. It is your money and you already know how gratefully you are to just have one child. But it's those that have conceived all on their own perfectly the first time, but the second time comes around and they need help. It's like the whole world is coming down and one needs to complain to everyone else how hard it is.
I joined an online forum awhile ago for the particular fertility drug I'm on. I thought it would be a good idea to connect to other women in the same place as myself. I was wrong. Many of the women have secondary infertility (already have children) and have just gotten another BFP. The forum is more depressing than I though this week.
It even upsets me (but not as much) when fertiles talk about future children they plan on having. If only it were that easy. Oh what life would be like if I could plan everything out. Every day when I wake up and right before I fall asleep I hope this will be my day/cycle. That is all I can do.
PS I probably pissed a few people off with this post. It is just an opinion. With the shoes I'm wearing now this is how I view the world. I'm sure there is at least one other person out there that feels the way I do.
PS I probably pissed a few people off with this post. It is just an opinion. With the shoes I'm wearing now this is how I view the world. I'm sure there is at least one other person out there that feels the way I do.
